Losing a friend or family member can be difficult for you and those around you. Struggling with a mix of emotions is normal and necessary when grieving the death of a loved one. While many people use a number of methods to cope with loss, learning to understand grief, and finding tools to help you cope with it, is often an excellent place for people to start their recovery. Basham Funeral Care understands that losing a loved one can be difficult for adults and children alike, and offers a variety of grief resources to help families cope.

Some of the grief support groups we recommend include:

Optimal Hospice Care Grief Support Groups
Optimal Hospice Grief Support offers two primary care groups to support adults that have just experienced a loss. Counseling is also available in Spanish, and a children’s grief group is also available for school-age children. To attend one of these groups, use the information below to reach out to the care group:

Tuesday Group:
10:00 – 11:30 A.M.
First United Methodist Church
4600 Stockdale Hwy, Room 4
Office Phone: (661) 716-4000

Thursday Evening Group:
6:00 – 7:30 P.M.
First United Methodist Church
4600 Stockdale Hwy, Room 4
Office Phone: (661) 716-4000

Counseling available En Español

Kid’s Grief Connection:
Available in Bakersfield, Taft, & Delano
Call for more information
Office Phone: (661) 371-2102

Empty Arms:
Empty Arms is a faith-based grief recovery support group for those who have lost a child through miscarriage, stillbirth, or infant death. They offer grief recovery groups for women and couples, as well as individual grief coaching. For more information, call 661-326-1907 or email [email protected]

Hoffmann Hospice Grief Support:
The weekly grief support groups at Hoffmann Hospice are free to all attendees, and is open to the public with no need for reservations. There is no need to have a loved one currently staying at the center, as everyone is welcome.

Adults Grief Support Group:
The adults’ grief support group is open to adults who have lost someone close to them in death and gives individuals the opportunity to connect with others who are going through a similar ordeal. Hoffmann’s respect for the different healing processes means our grief counselors will honor your personal coping methods, whether it means talking about your feelings or simply listening to others speak.

Children And Teen Support Groups:
Perfect for children aged 4 to 17, the children and teen support group at Hoffmann allows kids and young adults to feel comfortable expressing themselves to counselors and peers. All children are separated into age-specific groups, so that healing exercises like group discussions and pet therapy are more focused.

Healing Hearts:
The Healing Hearts therapy group is designed to help parents and adult family members who have lost a child. The group is open to parents, aunts, uncles, grandparents, and any other family members who wish to attend.

Adults: Tuesdays 6:00 p.m. to 7:00 p.m & Thursdays 10:00 a.m. to 11:00 a.m.
Children And Teens: Thursdays 5:30 p.m. to 6:30 p.m.
Healing Hearts: Wednesdays 5:30 p.m. to 6:30 p.m.

Annual Ornament Decorating Party:
To honor those who have died, families are welcome to attend our annual ornament decorating party each December, allowing them to decorate our Christmas tree with a photo or special ornament in honor of your loved one. The decorating party is open to the public, and is free for entry.

You can reach the Hoffmann Center using the following information:

4401 Buena Vista Rd Bakersfield, CA 93311
Phone: (661) 410-1010
Suggested Reading

  • A Grief Observed – by C. S. Lewis and Madeleine L’Engle
  • Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding – by Sheryl Sandberg and Adam Grant
  • Letters from Motherless Daughters: Words of Courage, Grief, and Healing – by Hope Edelman
  • When Your Grandparent Dies: A Child’s Guide to Good Grief – by Victoria Ryan and R. W. Alley
  • What’s Heaven – by Maria Shriver and Sandra Speidel
  • Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died: Coping with Loss Every Day – by Ty Alexander and Tia Williams


Guiding Grief

For immediate support and to learn more about the grieving process, view our Guiding Grief Interactive Support Video. Here, you will be guided through steps to help you find answers to many questions about grief and suggestions for your own healing or help with someone else’s healing. Gain an understanding and acceptance of how necessary the process is, and know that you will get through it. Watch this video to know you are not alone.